Random Thoughts of a Supersmock

Very recently I found out that a friend of mine lied to me about something.  I gathered that she didn't want to hurt my feelings about it, so perhaps she just thought a little white lie wouldn't matter and spare my feelings.  But after hearing the truth from another friend, it got me thinking about our friendship.   What does it say about your friendship that you're willing to tell one friend the truth and another friend a white lie, which last time I checked was a ... lie.  Now I could certainly go to said friend and inquire the truth and seek some sort of reconciliation but it comes back to the fact that person is an untrustworthy friend.   I am sure that we all have different things that are deal breakers in our relationships.  But what should be the qualities of a good friend?  I continually try to share traits/qualities I believe are worthy with my teenage daughter.  This is something that can be difficult at the moody a...

This year I decided to put Smiling More on my New Years Resolution.  Among the mighty list of things I would like to improve upon this year ... having a positive deposition being positive is one of the biggest.   Smiling can be a form a therapy and just think... It's free.  A long time ago, I took a customer service class and they stated that you should always answer the phone with a smile.  Over the years I have answered the phone with a smile and I have answered the phone with a "what the heck" attitude.  I guarantee  the caller knew the difference.   I hope to smile at all those walking pass me because I don't know who needs it.  When my family is frustrated or moody I am hoping that I will choose to smile and help them become more positive.  When I am in a boring meeting and my eyes want to roll back and I want to crawl under the table... I hope that I can remember to smile.   So I invite you to join me, and make s...

Dear Facebook,  It's a new year and with new years comes new things. We've had a great relationship over the past 9 years. We laughed, we cried, we watched a lot of cat and dog videos, but lately I have really been unhappy in our relationship. I've changed. I've grown apart over the past couple years and this social media site is just too much for me. I truly tried to make this work, but I can't keep faking it anymore. Honestly, I just don't want to post personal things abou t my life day and night. I liked that you kept me in touch with so many awesome people but it's just not enough to keep me in this relationship. I guess what I am saying... is it's not you ... It's me.  Please know that I am grateful for connecting me with family members and friends and if they want to keep in touch they can email me at supersmock@gmail.com or follow me on instagram: Supersmock  It's been real... in a weird technology kind of way, Heather   P.S. I am deact...

The other day we were driving, and the song "I'm Just a Girl" came on the radio. My husband told my daughter that it could be her theme song in life. She replied, "No, this is Mom's song." And while I've seen No Doubt/Gwen Stefani multiple times in concert, I'm not sure this song really applies to me anymore.   I will admit that being a girl has its difficulties, but I've found that the older I get, the more comfortable I am with who I am. So as I raise a girl in this world, these are the words of wisdom I tell her over and over again. Have faith and trust in God. Many things in this world don't make sense. Like how we got to Clinton and Trump as presidential candidates. But if you remain faithful, you'll know that even in the chaos, God has it under control. You don't have to figure it all out. You just need to know that He does, and He has a plan. Like and love yourself for who you are. Too often we don't like who we are. ...

Sure I just ran another half marathon three days ago, but I am not fit.  I have been meditating on what it means to be fit and I am just not there ... yet.  As we ran in Virginia Beach my fourteen year daughter pushed and motivated me the whole way.  My legs were tired, my knee and back both started hurting.  I just didn’t feel “it” anymore after we past mile eight.  But the entire way she said “come on mom.  We’re doing it. You can do it” And we did.   I had a personal best and I owe much of that to my daughter.   I said it was perhaps time,  her and I no longer run together because I was holding her back, but she said “You just need to train more, mom.” That comment really stuck to me and it got me thinking about how unfit I truly am.  I didn’t train enough for this race sure but more importantly I have been wondering around really unfit with God.  It’s hard being in a transition place and feeling spiritually unf...

We can’t coexist when everyone throws around the word “hate and bigot” all the time.  We can’t live in a world where everyone is equal when we all believe equality is different.   I am just a simple Christian mom trying to love my husband and raise my two pretty terrific kids.  My kids are living such a different life from what my husband and I did.  They live in a different kind of generation where they are connected to the world instantly.  They go to a public school and get to be exposed to the world in sometimes a scary way… but it’s true that Jesus walked the real world  and those are models we live by.  I get really said or maybe just disappointed when my agonist and atheist friends, which I have, want to slander my religion because it believes what it does.  I truly grieve when people think I “hate” or want there to be discrimination towards …  Muslims, homosexuals, transgender, blacks, whites, men, women, unborn, handicap, v...

Having a teenage daughter = the beginning of many let downs and disappointments.  As a young women and mother it's certainly hard to try and pick up your children after being let down and not getting something they really wanted.   The most recent one for our family was yesterday.  My daughter doesn't have the one special talent that she shines at.  She does a lot of thing good but nothing on the level of brilliant.  She isn't perfect and she is way more competitive than I would like her to be.    She makes use a lot of really great talents she has.   She's artistic on many different levels including visual arts, drama and music, she's sporty and the only 13 year old I know to run a half marathon, she's smart  even though she struggles with reading, and most important she has a kind gentle  beautiful heart.   What happens too often in our young girls is they see at an early age... things that hinder them most of their lives....