Demolition or Escalation

I was thinking back on my life of the different types of people there are in the world.

Those that are introvert and Those that are extroverts
Those that are optimist and Those that are pessimist
Those that are givers and Those that are takers
Those that agreeable and Those that are disagreeable
Those that build up and Those that tear down

I often reflect on what type of person am I .. Sometimes I feel pessimist and sometimes I feel optimist. Sometimes I give a lot and sometimes I take a lot. Sometimes I build up others and unfortunately sometimes I tear others down.

No one is perfect but it's import to recognize what type of person you are ... what type of person you would like to be and what type of person you tend to hang around.

I have found myself cutting people out of my life that tend to just tear me down. They don't really celebrate my accomplishments or joys with me ... but rather point out the times I've failed or wasn't good enough.

I want to be around people who build you up... rather than tear you down. But more importantly I want to be mindful of encouraging others were they are in life and hopefully I will do more building than demolition.

Just remember everyone is under construction and sometimes we need to do a little renovation in our lives... thankful we have a great carpenter!

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