They are intelligent, kind, compassionate and loving... but even still they both have had run ins with bullies over the years. Bullying isn't really anything new... it dates backs to the beginning of human beings. I am sure each of us can all think of someone who was or is a bully. Someone who abuses their power or takes advantage of others.
I have been pretty good at kissing scraped knees over the years .. but when it comes to scraped hearts... It's been so much harder. My husband and I often say to each other "man, kids can just be so mean..."
As parents we want to protect the innocence or our children but also not shield them from the world. We don't want them exposed to unnecessary torment even still teaching them to rise above the sinful hearts of others. It's a very hard balance to turn the check but also not be so naive and let people take advantage of you.
Somethings we've learned:
Words hurt sometimes more than scraped knees
It's ok to be non-confrontational and walk away from people
Real friends won't be good weather friends. Sometimes friends will come and go and that's ok
Making a bigger deal out of it... sometimes is worse than what it was from the get-go
Everyone is a child of God ... even bullies
I wish I could say I've done great parenting job in the area.. but if I am truthful - I haven't. I need to often remind myself of the things I know.. God is good and no matter what struggles we go through he's there to pick us up.
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